I had a subject about leadership yesterday.
(FYI I had a whole course about leadership and management for a year, and yet here I am studying leadership again)
Anyways, we discussed about leadership and gender. The difference between the leadership styles of male and female.
(FYI ule, the class is dominated by female classmates. Out of 25, only 3 are males)
Surprisingly, most of my female classmates criticized the leadership style of females, saying females are too emotional, not firm, indecisive and a whole lot more. They said they prefer to have male leaders who they feel can lead them right.
Another classmate said that in the workplace, she prefers to work with men because she can talk reasons to men and women just don’t listen. Women will make you feel that they are superior and they are very bossy unlike men, she said.
She also criticized the journal we read that states that women are more compassionate leaders than men. She believes that women’s compassion is just at home being a mother and doesnt extend to their workplace. I would like to remind you that the classmate is a woman. Opo, babae po sya.
There are only 2 of us in the class that believes that gender is not a basis to justify leadership. For me, it is more of the person as a whole and not by just their gender. Listening to them, it is the stigma, the stereotyping that affects the leadership and gender.
Women are soft whereas men are firm.
Women are indecisive whereas men are firm.
Women are emotional whereas men are strong.
Here we are in this century, fighting for equality and yet my friends from the same gender belittle women.
I just don’t get it.
I also had a discussion with a male colleague telling me that men are greater than women. And surprise, surprise, when he argues his point my female colleagues agreed with him.
He told us women are emotional, they decide before thinking. Impulsive. Women also are gossipers, and envies a lot.
I told him there are emotional, impulsive, kiss and tell and envious men, not just women.
We should not be defined by our gender. It might be the upbringing, the culture, the beliefs and whatnots that affect their behaviour. But I do not want to believe that it is solely because of our gender.
Yes, gender and hormones may affect some of our traits but it is not just who we are.
I am not a feminist and I actually don’t push for equality for I believe that there are certain things that women should be above men. Hahaha.
I still believe that men should give seats to women (who are pregnant or old age)
For work opportunities, salaries and rights, yes we should be equal.
But come on girls, why belittle women? Whhhhhy???
Wala lang rant lang sa discussion kahapon. Hay, kaya di natin nakukuha gusto nating equality eh.